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Some Things THANKFULLY Never Change

Yeah, yeah, yeah…I know the drill…the ole familiar mantra.  Life is about change, right?  Change is inevitable.  Change forces you to grow.  Blah blah blah.  (Damn those motivational speakers!)

Don’t get me wrong.  I do relish some change…in certain situations.  I enjoy changing my hairstyle, my toenail polish, my sheets (oo-lah-lah), underwear, and of course my address (when I moved to Denver).   On the flip side, I HATE changing my own flat tire.

But some things…I just want to stay “the same.”  For comfort reasons.

On top of my “no-changes-allowed” list…tried and true friendships.   You know….the ones you can count on one perfectly manicured hand.

Thankfully, the bond I have with certain girlfriends has never changed (sounds cliche but true).  I don’t have “blood” sisters, so my girlfriends are my “true” sisters.   Yes, our lives have transformed over the years…but our emotional connections haven’t.  True BFFs survive a typhoon of marriages, divorces, hangovers, cross country moves, breakups, breakdowns, newborns, new jobs, bad jobs, no jobs, 50 cases of PMS, and about 1.2 million bad and good dates.  And I haven’t even mentioned the mini-makeovers, pounds lost, pounds gained, and all those damn exercise hours in between.

This comforting reality hit me last week when one of my BFFs (aka Brendy) visited moi from Kansas City.  (I used to live there a few years back.)  As any good hostess, I showed her all the beautiful “mile-high” city highlights.   We sauntered down Larimer Square, rubbed elbows with the cougars at Elway’s, burned some laps at Wash Park, and even conquered Rocky Mountain National Park.

More importantly, though, we just cut to the chase and fell into our old BFF routine….the one that never changed. Same friendship…just a different location.  Our fears…plus our dreams….all rolled into one conversation.   Minutes in, Brendy and I were “in the zone”…best described as a combination of hot gossip, emotional details, genuine reactions….coupled with spurts of laughter, “oh-my-gods,” bedroom details, and various bitch sessions.

Bottom line…who cares about salutations and fluff…when you can get to the heart of the matter efficiently?  Throw in some red sangria and watch the conversation run rampant.

A few days in to Brendy’s visit…..I realized something.  Spending time with her…made me miss her EVEN more!  Of course I had missed her the last few years….but as her departure loomed ahead…and the clock seemed to speed up….we realized the scope. It was huge…and special.  Something I hope every woman experiences.

Brendy and I boo-hood like teenagers leaving summer horseback riding camp the night before her flight back to Kansas City.  We hugged on the couch and felt pretty darn “Hallmark-card” pathetic.   Heck, I’m surprised we didn’t buy cheesy friendship pins…or carve our initials into some poor tree.

After she left, I was seriously depressed all day…secretly sniffling to myself while editing video at work…trying to write an episode.  Brendy texted me from the plane equally as bummed.  Sigh……our big adventure was officially over.   When I got home…I scarfed down potato chips, crawled under a blanket, and watched a chick “Sundance film festival” movie…attempting to think about something OTHER than my best friend’s absence.

Later that night, “Eye Guy” came over to attempt to cheer me up.   Like any man, he wanted to “fix” the problem…then “make out.  :)  And like most women mourning the departure of someone special, I told him I needed my space (aka “get lost”) and to call me the next day.  My pity party was my own and no one else’s…and would certainly not be ruined by some dude.

When the alarm rang the next morning, I made a conscious effort to find my “big girl panties.”  I pulled my mood out of the gutter.  And suddenly….all was “right” again in the world.   Driving to work,….my acoustic satellite music channel acting as a sappy soundtrack…I pondered my blessings

As women…we need each other. It doesn’t matter what stage of life we’re currently “in”…or moving “into”…or “leaving.”

The lesson here….good friends really don’t change…instead…they help you roll, conquer, and survive all of your own life changes. And distance…well, it’s just a small detour.

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14 Responses to “Some Things THANKFULLY Never Change”

  1. Bren
    July 8th, 2010 at 5:54 AM

    …..And you made me cry AGAIN!!! I luv ya sister, KC hasn’t been the same since you left. The adventures just aren’t quite the same. We all miss you and can’t wait for a visit from LW. Hugs to you Baby Way J and Lilly.

  2. Maggie Houlihan
    July 8th, 2010 at 7:21 PM

    Yes,my best girlfriends, Peggy and Colleen,and I can relate to this. Enjoyed this entry alot.

  3. Michelle
    July 10th, 2010 at 12:01 PM

    This sounds like a great time! You know it’s a good friend and you go months or years without seeing them and when you meet again, you pick up just where you left off.

    Good friends rock!

    Michelle
    http://pietrosmomma.blogspot.com/
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  4. Charlotte
    July 10th, 2010 at 12:15 PM

    I know the feeling, as I had a gf in town several months ago who I hadn’t seen for 8 years. I didn’t know if it would be awkward or what but we picked up right where we had left off. I think we form bonds with certain people that time/geography/any number of other factors can’t destroy. Awesome you were able to reunite again and hopefully you will both make it a point to see each other again in the near future :)
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  5. JoJo
    July 10th, 2010 at 12:19 PM

    Oh gosh, why are you changing your own tier?! Do they not have triple A in your neck of the woods? I’d die!
    Anyways, I think you’re right about true friends. I have a few of those and the rest I put on the B list. And why are men always trying to fix the problem when sometimes all we want to do is be sad and depressed about it. So annoying!
    I love your blog, but can’t figure out how to follow :-(
    Found you at the Tea party, I will be back!
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  6. Alison @ Stretch My Check
    July 10th, 2010 at 12:41 PM

    Wow, what a perfect description of a true friendship between women. I have this with my friend J. She lives 7 hours away, but every time we are together it’s as though we’ve spent no time apart. It just clicks. Thanks for reminding me of that feeling through your story.

    I’m visiting from the LBS Tea Party. Thanks for having me!

  7. Karen@WaistingTime
    July 10th, 2010 at 12:42 PM

    My best friend lives far away and we get together about every other year somewhere for a weekend. We pick up like we never were apart, but I always worry we won’t since our lives are now so different. BTW – I live in KC:) And I love every place I have ever been in Colorado.

  8. holly
    July 10th, 2010 at 3:25 PM

    I can so relate! My best friend from grade school just came to visit from Missouri and it was like no time at all had past..we both went thru a week of depression after she went back home. It’s just not fair that best friends have to live so far apart as grown ups!
    holly recently posted…Day 7 of the 30 day Blog Journal

  9. Angela H
    July 10th, 2010 at 4:39 PM

    I’m visiting from Lady Bloggers! I’m glad I picked your site! I’m a new follower!
    Love From a California Momma,
    Angela

  10. purseblogger
    July 10th, 2010 at 4:39 PM

    Hi! Found you through LB Tea Party. I love your blog!
    This is such a great post. True friends are hard to find and when you do find them, never let go. I’m so glad you got to spend some time with one for a few days. I live an hour away from KC and we love to go there. We drive through Denver all of the time too. :)
    I am your newest follower. Have a great day girl!

  11. Michele
    July 10th, 2010 at 7:34 PM

    First off, I read your About page and you had me at Bon Jovi. Second, I was thinking of this same thing (the BFF thing, not the Bon Jovi) today. I went to my friend’s baby shower and we haven’t seen one another since her wedding, when I was pregnant with my first kid (I now have two). For a moment I thought perhaps it’d be awkward, like I should have tried to see her more, blah blah, but we just picked right up where we left off. And while we say we’re going to see each other soon, if life gets in the way we can still catch up later and remember how much we miss each other.

    I’m a new follower from the LB!

  12. Nicole Abdou
    July 10th, 2010 at 8:20 PM

    Excellent writing – glad I stopped by! PS – I think I fixed my comment situation at Destination Unknown.

    Also – I think you have a new follower! ;-)
    Nicole Abdou recently posted…And the boy said- I see dead people

  13. Hungry For Living
    July 12th, 2010 at 8:07 AM

    I am a new follower from the lady bloggers blog hop! Hope you come visit!

  14. AmyBlam
    July 14th, 2010 at 7:47 PM

    PLEASE come change my sheets-I hate that almost as much as I loathe putting away laundry.

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